I agree with Seeker4. The more you do it, the less you'll remember all those sexual myths that were taught by JW. If you have found a nice man and enjoy his company, then go for it.
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Promiscuous or sexually free?
by brunnhilde inso i'm 37 and i've only been with one man, my ex-husband, in my entire life.
i just started a new relationship with a wonderful man but i'm fighting the preprogramming that comes from being a dub for 35 years.
how have other people overcome the inhibitions and issues that come from the ridiculously rigid sexual mindset of the wtbs?
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You will never overcome your Witness past...
by JimmyPage in... unless you read apostate views.. you may become inactive, like i did, and find a way to assimilate yourself into the normal world.. but you will always have at your core a view of the world that the witnesses gave you.
their basic teachings will still be your world view.. you will never realize you were indoctrinated by a cult.. for those poisoned by jehovah's witnesses there is only one antidote.. there is only one way to understand your life and progress from there.. the only true cure for jehovah's witnesses is apostasy..
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My scars and lingering wounds are not due to me still believing that anything the JWs say is "the truth". I have not believed a word of their teachings for at least 32 years. There was maybe a 3 year period before that that I left the meetings and all that crap but still had lingering doubts. But that is long, long gone.
My scars and wounds are emotional. From the lies, the control, the brainwashing, the separation from "the world", the conditional love and friendships. Those horrendous and frightening "dramas and the conventions would scar anyone. And all the obsession with sex. I think that constitutes sexual abuse right there. Children should not be listening to all that. There is no respect for children at all in JW.
I have trouble trusting ANYONE. I have struggled with extremely poor self-esteem. I still struggle with feeling "different" from most people and on the sidelines.
I would imagine that almost anyone that was raised from birth in this cult would have many of these same issues.
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Terry:
Beautiful post!
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At the hall last night
by Shawn10538 ini went to the hall last night to get an insight book and a concordance.
i had set it up with an elder ahead of time to get them.
i arrived after the meeting had ended, walked up to the counter anxious to leave as quickly as i came when a big brother came up to me, planted his body in between me and the literature servant and started giving me the third degree about who i am, what is my standing in the congregation, and what did i want the books for.
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Every single encounter with these sick and ignorant people just drags me down and makes me pity them more and more. God how I pity them!! They are just getting worse and worse all the time. Sicker and sicker.
You are right. Stay away from them. Don't go back. They are sick and ignorant and drag you down. You deserve better.
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Why On Earth Did YOU Ever Become a JW???
by minimus inmy excuse: born in it and stayed in way too long.. your reason??
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I have one grandmother (deceased) that was JW. I currently have 3 aunts , one uncle and numerous cousins that are still JWs. I have not seen any of my cousins in years. I have some contact with my aunts and uncle but I don't talk about JW stuff. If they bring it up I may listen politely but I do nothing to encourage conversation in that direction. I have never had to be rude to them. I think they truly want to maintain a relationship with me because I am family. They do not want to drive me away. I guess I am lucky in that sense. They all live in another state so I don't see them very often.
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Why On Earth Did YOU Ever Become a JW???
by minimus inmy excuse: born in it and stayed in way too long.. your reason??
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I was NEVER a JW in Georgia. I moved here after I graduated college. Yes, I "insisted" on going to college. Like I said, I was out when I was 15 and I demanded as "normal" a life as I could get.
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Why On Earth Did YOU Ever Become a JW???
by minimus inmy excuse: born in it and stayed in way too long.. your reason??
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I'm the same as you. I was born into it. But I got out when I was 15.
Both my parents are dead now. I'm trying to figure out how THEY got into it. I'd love to see some answers on here.
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How Did You Feel During Memorial?
by almostbitten ini'm sure this topic has been mulled over already, but indulge me and other newbies to this site.
how did you feel when memorial took place and you didn't/couldn't really partake in it?
and what happended to the wine and bread afterwards if no one ate or drank?
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It's been a very, very long time since I have been to a Memorial. But as I think about it I remember feeling fear, horror and disgust at the way disfellowshipped people were treated (not me or anyone in my family). I felt no love from anyone in the congregation. I felt the elders loved their power. I felt that questions and free thinking were absolutely not allowed. I felt stifled, strangled, stagnant. I felt that I could not survive as a person in this organization. I knew that my "worldly' friends were more loving , caring and less hypocritical than anyone in that KH.
Thanks, I needed to verbalize that.
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Rutherford......the Pimp?
by Gill inis it true, as i was reading yesterday, that rutherford provided a brothel for the male members of the bethel?.
i will provide a link later when i get back!.
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I agree with Awakened07's post.
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You will never overcome your Witness past...
by JimmyPage in... unless you read apostate views.. you may become inactive, like i did, and find a way to assimilate yourself into the normal world.. but you will always have at your core a view of the world that the witnesses gave you.
their basic teachings will still be your world view.. you will never realize you were indoctrinated by a cult.. for those poisoned by jehovah's witnesses there is only one antidote.. there is only one way to understand your life and progress from there.. the only true cure for jehovah's witnesses is apostasy..
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Apostasy? That's a JW word.. you're still "Posting Under the Influence" (PUI) which carries a minimum sentence of reading 20 antiJW books, lol...
I agree with Awakened at Gilead. Just the fact that you are using that word "apostate" shows that you are still under the influence of JW. As you continue to stay away and read books like Crisis of Conscience and discover the world out side of JW you will not use tems like that anymore. You will see things very differently.
That being said, I was raised from birth as a JW and it has afftected me and my personality and my relationships all of my life. I have been spending more time with my younger sister lately due to the illness and death of my mother. I can see that is has affected her even more than me. She has not "moved on' emotionally even as much as I have. When you are raised in fear, guilt, feeling different than eveyone else it has a lifelong effect on you.
That's why I'm on this site now. That's why I'm reading Crisis of Conscience now. It's been many years since I've left but now for the first time I'm looking back and trying to figure out what happend to me and my family and why. But you've got to get deprogrammed first before you can look back.